Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Dad

Dad and Elliot January 2017
I started writing this on June 17th, 2017, about 5 weeks before Dad died... and left it blank for 321 days. How can I summarize a life? I’m not sure I could ever sufficiently pay tribute to someone so fundamental to my own being, but I feel compelled to try.

The best word I recently came up with to describe my dad was quixotic. For example, I recently found a large stack of photos among his albums which were of origami figures placed in various positions throughout his table and apartment. I think he was trying to convey some kind of story but it didn’t make any sense to me. The origami was cute and I had a good laugh. This is characteristic of so many things quintessentially Dad.

Sidney spent many of his younger years as a paper cutter in a factory after a brief stint at UPenn Wharton, which was mainly halted by struggles with mental health. However, he spent the majority of his retirement as an artist. His work was mostly geometric figure drawings but he also created an eclectic mix of wood burnings, screen prints, and tile mosaics.

I think one of the reasons I want to tell the world about my father is that he lived a quiet humble life; the kind that gets little recognition despite the depth and richness of the person. He might be easily forgotten by history, having kept his friend circle small but close and his career mostly spent in solitude. Of course Dad is impossible to forget by friends and loved ones.

Beyond all else I remember my father as kind hearted and loving. After a particularly bad bout of pain he spent the last 4th of July in the hospital where doctors worked to get the pain levels under control and come up with a plan of care. This was when they delivered the news that Dad needed to decide whether he wanted to pursue any treatments that may have only extended his life by a few weeks, or if he would like to opt for Hospice / palliative care. This was devastating news. On this particular visit, despite his fear, sadness and pain he looked at me and said,"you're the best thing I've ever done" out of sincere appreciation for my devoted care, and with so much love. I feel so grateful for the unabashed kindness Dad bestowed upon me. It seems to me so many children end up with conflicted feelings about how their parents value them and what that relationship is, but with my father that was never a question, and his unconditional love has helped propel me through every manner of challenge I've face in my life. I could say so much more about the man with the best bear hug on earth, but at the risk of getting skipped over because it's TL;DR I'll stop here and move on to my plan for honoring Dad's life this Father's Day and for his upcoming yahrzeit.

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The Honor Sidney Lust Campaign

In addition to our fond memories and the warmth that engulfs them, Dad leaves behind a legacy of 117 comb bound books of his geometric figures, in addition to other works of art and humorous books of quotes and doodles. While I will retain the original copies of his art - Dad had always intended to sell the comb bound books. He imagined they would each garner a hefty price, but his introverted nature seemed to prevent him from breaking into the art world and finding an outlet for sales. That said, I would love to see these books distributed so that they don't spend a lifetime collecting dust on a shelf and Dad deserves to have this most cherished piece of himself shared in a way that would truly honor his life.

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Instead of attempting to outright sell the books myself, which I am not comfortable benefiting from considering that he spent nearly 18 years devoted to making them; in Dad's honor I am creating a donation campaign. I plan to donate (i.e. forward on contributions) to various organizations that Dad either cared about, benefitted from or that support a cause meaningful to Dad's life, such as BJC Hospice. Although he was of modest means, Dad always loved the idea of philanthropy and would be glad to know that despite not selling his books while he was living, they will go on to do something good and big in the community.

In exchange for contributions of $36 or more to this campaign, [edited 7/26/18 --- I initially envisioned donating one large sum to an organization or two that meant something special to Dad, however I did not receive any interest. In light of this I am willing to simply offer the books for free (but ask you to cover shipping); above and beyond all else I just want others in the world to enjoy them. If you feel so inclined please consider donating any amount to any organization you see fit in my Dad's honor.] I will give each contributor one of his Geometric Designs books. Higher donations are welcome but I do not want to exclude anyone that wants to participate for whom a higher cost would be burdensome.

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If you would like request a specific Book # I have included an example drawing from each of the first 30 books below. I will continue to add more as I am able to but with 11,700 pages to sift through it will take me a bit of time to get through the rest of the collection. Please keep in mind that I have selected each of these as my personal favorite from each particular book (in a couple cases I couldn't choose and put up 2), but they are not meant to necessarily exemplify the other 99 pages of any particular book. While in my personal opinion many of the drawings are incredible, not all are as outstanding in intricacy and vibrancy as those you see here. Nonetheless, the following examples should give you an idea of the variety you might expect.

Each book and drawing are completely unique, and they are all done by hand (not computerized). Dad's main technique was to use a protractor and calculate a certain number of points a certain design would use, pencil out the figure and then color in the design, mainly with Prismacolor markers or occasionally colored pencils. From what I can tell, he began this endeavor around 1999 which is approximately when I think book 1 was made.

If you would like to request a book please email me at seasail13@yahoo.com to discuss shippingIf you are local to St. Louis, let me know when/where I might expect to see you and deliver your book. I will make a note here that says <out> when a book has been spoken for.
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Finally, please keep in mind that it may take me a week or so to get a book shipped once you make a request,
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Book 22

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Book 17
If you've read this far I want to thank you for learning more about my dad and his art!
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*Please pardon any formatting issues with this page. I am not an expert blogger so some text may not wrap as hoped or intended.
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Book 1

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Ruth and Rusty

So I've learned that friends in life can come from all sorts of creative places. Rusty (a.k.a. Mr. Ayers) was my 8th grade English teacher. Now when I tell people we still keep in touch I get that look... like "that's weird." Well fine, I see what you mean but no. Rusty was the super cool teacher that let kids hang out in his class room to play card games during the lunch hour for a more laid back atmosphere. Even back then we used to talk about our shared love of hiking and literature and life philosophy. I don't really care if that made me teacher's pet.

When I left the next year for boarding school Rusty welcomed me to send him a letter to let him know how it was going, and so I did. This was back before email was wildly popular and people still sent snail mail now and then. I didn't write much but I would send a Christmas card update every year even after I graduated right on through college. After one of these notes he wrote back and said "stop by to see me and Ruthie sometime!" and so I did and I was glad.

Ruthie is lovely, like a bouquet of wild flowers. She lights up a moment without really trying and immediately puts you at ease. I remembered Mr. Ayers always speaking fondly of his wife in class, and if she stopped by you could see that they were so happy together and it meant a lot to me as a child to see this good example. To see them as a couple at home was downright heartwarming. They ask me about how things are going in my life with the interest and sincerity of my grandparents, but they mention the places they have been or advice on things with the hipness of friends my age. I will always be grateful to Rusty and Ruthie for being great mentors and also for making me feel welcome in their lives.

Martha and Matt

Matt and Martha are two people I absolutely adore and have not seen in a very long time. When I think of amazing couples they are definitely up there on the list. They are not ooey goey lovey dovey pda types but you sense the power of their connection in the way they take care of each other and their beautiful family. They always put each other first and yet they still find a way to bring friends and family into the fold so you feel like part of something awesome too.

Let me explain with a story. Back in the day... (as in way back in the grad school days when I was naive and kind of a mess) I was living with a boy I had dated for a very long time, and he broke my heart. I started apartment hunting as quickly as possible but in the interim I was stuck living with ye olde heart-breaker and I was extremely depressed. Martha caught wind of the situation and even though they didn't know me very well, Martha and Matt welcomed me into their home for three weeks! I still feel guilty about over staying my welcome while I got my life sorted out but they (along with a few other awesome people - you know who you are) honestly saved my sanity. They made me feel very safe, like I had parental figures looking out for me. And when it came time to move out of my old apt into the new one they helped me load and unload, with just the right amount of awkwardness directed toward my ex. I think we managed to have a few good laughs during that time and I'm really glad I got to know them better. Now they have three amazing triplets and I continue to be in awe of their incredible parenting skills. Seriously, you make everyone else with one-baby-at-a-time look bad.

I miss their awesome music taste, their festive get togethers and their positive outlook on life. I'm really lucky to have such warm and supportive friends.

Sunday, March 2, 2014

Couples Week

So I've been on hiatus... if a year of shout outs was my pseudo New Years resolution mine has definitely been broken. I had hoped to post a series on some of my favorite couples around Valentine's Day but life had other plans. At this point I figure, why not pick up right where I left off?

So this week you will hear about a few people that make dynamic duos. They are people that have been a good example to me of what I would want my relationship to be like or they have been there to support me in some way and make an all around awesome team.

Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Shout out #13: snow shovelers

Ok, everyone knows it's cold out... like 0 degree windchill negative-might-as-well-be-pluto freezing cold out. Whenever it is really really cold in the winter I always think of my brother (a carpenter) or my brother-in-law (a plumber) working outdoors on some un-insulated building freezing their tails off. Today as I was walking to work on mostly un-yet shoveled sidewalks I was thinking how much it would stink to have to be out there for hours shoveling snow in the cold so cold I could barely warm up with 3 layers on and my soul felt a little iced over. Thank you to the maintenance crew at UConn, for preventing me from slipping on a sheet of ice right in front of 100 people, like I did that time my freshman year. I'm not sure the students appreciate you - and no one really has a way to thank you, but if I could I would give you a warm cup of hot cocoa. At the very least I'm sending a virtual hug.

Tuesday, January 21, 2014

Shout out #12: the last appointment of the day

Today I am grateful to my final student appointment of the day. Thanks for being flexible and coming in early so I could drive home before all the snow started. Sometimes students forget that researchers are people too... I appreciate whenever someone makes my hour long commute a little more bearable.

Monday, January 20, 2014

Shout out #11: barista

This thanks goes to the barista at Dog Lane Cafe for making me a killer cappuccino that was almost as delicious as those I drank in Spain. It was the best thing that happened to me today.